This is the Kannadiga Brahmin joke

Or An Insight into the Kannadiga Brahmin World.

There has been some outcry in the past week about how Kannadigas don’t have a stereotype. I read the article and thought to myself that clearly our Professor has not met any Kannadiga Brahmin.

By this, since the Brahmin community is very particular, I include all the sub-castes who live in the state irrespective of what their native tongue is, and consider themselves superior Kannadigas on account of being vegetarian and Brahmin.

Now that, that is sorted, I can tell you how it is in the Kannadiga Brahmin world.

In family circles, I am considered a bit of a dim wit. When family visits, they see me sitting on my table, in a short little frock that barely covers my knees, most often with a flannel house coat, hair anywhichway, no make-up, and working ceaselessly on my computer. It doesn’t help that I am not very fluent in Kannada unless I get into fight-with-automan mode.

With my relatives in particular, I am just unable to string basic sentences together before abandoning the project completely and taking recourse to English. Of course, that could be because I would rather not speak to them at all, given a choice. But I have been brought up well. We treat all manners of guests with courtesy and hence I heartily welcome guests in my Kannada sprinkled liberally and loudly with English. “Hello, hello, banni banni. How are you? Hegidera? Lunch? Oota ay… sit maadi.” And so on.

They cannot form a favourable opinion with all this as you can tell.

Normally, in Kannadiga Brahmin households even if children don’t make favourable impressions, their parents compensate by bragging about them so much that you end up feeling you visited a prodigy or at least a mini king/queen.
“My daughter, journalist, alva, she is working, pa, in the newspapers. Takes photos also. Have you read?” When all the daughter will be doing is acting as an intern as part of a course. 
“My son, ilva, is in the US.”
The US of A is to Kannadiga Brahmins what Mecca is to Muslims.
“Ohoho. I see. Howda? My son is in Europe. Most beautiful place, he says. I am making my passport. I will go there soon. He says, I can teach those people there so many things as I am a very knowledgeable person, alva.”
“Europe aa? Europe is nothing, ri. US thara there is nothing. Nothing like the US, you know? I have been there, so I know. So many Americans smiled at me everywhere, you know. They know I am very famous in Rajajinagar, alva. That is why.”

My parents have never bragged about my achievements or lack thereof.

My father would perhaps like to sometimes because he gets annoyed by all the nonsense bragging my mom’s family does about their kids and houses and what not, but he has been forbidden from speaking about my life to anyone, especially the maternal family.

I have never met anyone from my paternal side. And they are Shettys. So it’s supposedly a different race. Shettys add a little local alcohol to ferment their idlis I am told. It’s easy enough to know which side I favour.

My mother’s family, naturally enough, mutter amongst themselves and say, “Poor Mangala, she has known no happiness. First, marrying out of the community. Tsk tsk. And now look, even her daughter is a dim wit. Otherwise wouldn’t she have told us about her achievements? Paapa, what achievements can that dim wit have! If she were clever, why would she work so long on her computer? Clever people, like my children, finish work in half an hour, ya, yes. They are always taking me shopping and spending so much money on me, you know? They even look after their own babies, and you know how much jewellery they have! They take me so comfortably in their office cars, you know? They tell off their cab guy to come and pick me up and then they take me shopping. Their managers don’t mind. They are so happy that my daughter works in their company; they will do anything to keep her. Car is nothing.”

I definitely do not make the cut. I hate shopping. My silver jewellery is unimpressive. People from our community only wear silver on our feet, they scoff. My company would not give me a car much less one for my parents. When I have to go to the Electronics City office, I book my own Meru cab. I don’t even get reimbursed. Clearly, I work for the wrong company. But c’est la vie. And, of course, being 32 and not having a husband or child or even at least a divorce to show for it, is just what seals my fate. Nothing equals dimwit like Bhumika does.

For Kannadiga Brahmins, as the cleverer of you would have figured out by now, it is all about being bigger, brighter, better. It doesn’t matter if you are not. You just have to talk like you are.

“O, the idlis I make are the best”, says one beloved Brahmin lady to a world-famous catering company in Basavanagudi that she is hiring for her daughter’s wedding. “See, I specifically made them for you today so you would know how we are connoisseurs of good food. This is nothing; my entire family is famous for the way they cook. And my daughter’s to-be in-laws—you know them surely, they live in Malleshwaram, no? They have an Innova, you know—why they could have opened their own restaurant, even a catering business but they didn’t want to get into the hassle you know.”

The poor representative force feeds himself on hard, brownish-looking idlis with a disinteresting chutney, and tries to digest these boasts in vain. He has indeed met the said in-laws. They had made him a watery, bitter filter coffee and nothing else, he remembers. He had been hungry that day.
“O and my sambhar is out of this world.”
“Yes, ammavare, I can see it is not in this world”, he mutters and quickly agrees to cook just such idlis for the daughter’s wedding.

Maternally, I come from a household full of priests and astrologers who nevertheless refuse, even for entertainment purposes, to make any predictions about my life. It was not always so. I was variously told that I would marry when I was 22, 25, 27, and finally at 29, definitely, I would marry. And how I would travel the world. When I went to the US, no one was gladder than my astrologers who finally felt vindicated. The only thing my astrologer uncles had warned me about was starting a business. Ayyo, full loss, if you do. You will lose name, fame, money everything. Just do job, they dictated. So I never mention BWW to them. Naturally, one doesn’t want to cause anyone any distress if it can be avoided. I would lack nothing, they repeatedly reassured me. Health, wealth, everything would be mine for the taking, they averred. Now that my immunity is creating such a scandal, they have nothing to predict. One Brahmin mama I went to recently told me how it was a passing phase. Just an alignment problem. He spoke convincingly. He told me how he had cured a lady who was dying of cancer. Guru, Shani, listen to me, you know, he said. I was a bit terrified by his powers and never saw him again.

Normally, we believe that people who serve God must be blessed people indeed. Growing up on diets of puranic stories and mythological tales you imagine priests to be messengers of God who have conquered envy, anger, fear, and what not. Of course, you are sensible so you know it cannot be true. Also, if you flip through Kannada channels even for a few seconds, you have a fairly informed impression about priests.

I recently went with my maternal uncles to Sakleshpura in Hassan to attend a special pooja of the  family Goddess (supposedly) of my maternal grandfather.

On special days, around three to four priests get together to decorate the sanctum in any temple. They come to blows as they do so. Indeed. I do not exaggerate. They will chant mantras. “Something something samarpayami, ei baddi magane, halu ellideyo?” Ei whoreson, where is the milk? And so on. In the temple. While apparently praying.

Of course, this is what happens when the priests are all from the same family. Now bring in a mix. It happens sometimes on very special days in temples. Priests from different families come together to conduct the poojas.
“Aai, who the hell are you? What are you doing with that garland?”
“Dai, neen yaavono kelakke? Who the hell are you to ask me all these questions?”
“Who am I? I am the one who bought this Goddess that shiny, gold-plated crown for 750 rupees. That is who I am, you asshole.”
“You son of a whore, what do you know, I bought flowers worth 1,000 rupees all the way from Bangalore. How dare you talk to me like that. Son of a whore.”

And the other priests will try in vain to get these squabbling sons of God to quieten. Loud bells will be rung to distract. The devotees in queue waiting to see the Goddess will piously fold their hands at the sound, and make fervent wishes of marriage, wealth, children, and other such prosperity. The bells will clang louder to drown the voices of the quarrelling priests. The devotees will go home in a trance and claim it was a pooja like never before. How holy everything was! There is something about that Goddess.

In the same temple, part of the devotee crowd that thronged, I overheard—it couldn’t be avoided, they were very loud—this interesting exchange.
Mom-in-law: Dearest son-in-law, did you lock your iPhone when we came all the way from Bangalore in your Innova?
Son-in-law: Yes, beloved amma, I did. How did you know? You are so clever.
Daughter: Ohoho. How will she know? I came to know. I was trying to call you and it said your phone was locked.
Son-in-law (looking at her hungrily in front of mom-in-law): You wanted to call me?
Mom-in-law: Don’t lock your iPhone, son-in-law. It’s okay if you do it in your 60 by 40 two-storied house in Girinagar, but here you must not lock it. My daughter was mad out of her mind with worry. I know you don’t want her to feel that way. It was like the time you were in America, alva?
Son-in-law leering: Your daughter, beloved amma, has Salman Khan.
Daughter: Aha, don’t talk to me about Salman Khan. He is mine, okay? This is about your iPhone. Now show me your iPhone. I am getting bored. I want to see your iPhone. I want to do Facebook. Did you take Goddess picture? Then we can do Facebook Goddess picture.

Even the so-called “low caste villagers” in the queue snickered.

A Kannadiga Brahmin gentleman recently offered me a drive in his car. I was pleasantly surprised. Kannadiga Brahmins are not famous for spontaneous, uncalculated generosity like that. I should have known better. The drive was pleasant enough in the beginning. And then he started rhapsodising about his two-year old Maruti Alto. I still didn’t get it. I thought he was a man inordinately proud of his car. I smiled indulgently and looked out at the scenery. And then he said,
“Why don’t you buy my car?”
“What? Say what?”
“See, it’s a very good car. I feel bad that everyone in your family has a car and you don’t.”
I laughed. “You needn’t feel bad for me. I don’t mind not having a car.”
“But no, no, how can I let you be car-less when I can do something about it?”
“I see. So how much would you sell this car for?”
“See, it’s like this. The showroom guys are begging me to sell this car back to them. They are offering me three lakhs. You see, it’s a very good car. But I want to help you. So I will sell it to you for two lakhs eighty thousand only. You see, what is the point of living in this world if you don’t help someone in need? I am not at all calculative. What is money, after all? It comes and goes.”
“Uncle, you are such a fine man. I wish I had the money to pay you. But as you know, I am not very clever, so I have made no money. I would have given you four lakhs if I had it. Such a kind man, you are. You deserve so much. But as it stands, you are better off selling the car to the showroom. After all, I don’t want you to incur any loss, you see?”
He shook his head in regret. He was more convinced than ever that all the rumours about me in Kannadiga Brahmin circles were true. I was a dimwit to end all dimwits.
“As you wish, ma. I was only trying to help you. If you will not take my help, what can I do? Who else will make an offer like this? I will now have to sell this car to the showroom only and get three lakhs. But your two lakhs eighty thousand would have made me so happy. For me, it’s all about helping others. But what to do? Sometimes people don’t want to be helped. What to do? It’s all fate.”

Overwhelmed by such kindness, I cried.

8 steps to becoming a Kannadiga Brahmin

  1. Always start your sentences with, “Nevermind that. Listen to what I have to say.” Or, “That is nothing. Listen to what I have to say.”
  2. And say it. Make your story bigger, brighter, better than anyone else’s.
  3. Complain about all things in the world to show how great you are. 
  4. Brag till kingdom come about minuscule or no achievements.
  5. Ensure you have your own, not rented ri, big house in the suburbs. Or better still in the heart of the city. Now, please walk with your head held high, your feet two feet above ground level.
  6. Gold. How much gold do you have? Ensure that it is plenty and tasteless. Now, please walk with your head held high, your feet four feet above ground level.
  7. A car. You must have a car. If you are a priest, you must have an SUV. It is just God’s desire.
  8. Have you married well or are engaged to be married well? Yes, very good. No, no, don’t cry about your husband’s roving eye or your wife’s family. Which family doesn’t have fights and what couple is ever truly happy? Look at the own house, wear all the gold, now sit and brag loudly in social gatherings.

Ashte mathe.
Do you know how lucky you are?
You are now a Kannadiga Brahmin!

About Bhumika's Boudoir

I love to laugh, and end up being a part of high drama and stormy emotion even when I don't pursue it. Being creative, and communicating with people get me going. I enjoy all the good things in life especially those that are slightly risque, and apologise little, if ever, for all that I do. Literature is a passion and so is music.
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56 Responses to This is the Kannadiga Brahmin joke

  1. sudhamathew10 says:

    Never knew you were such a well brought up Kannadiga Brahmin girl. Such love for your own community – not! Enjoyed the perfect sarcasm of an insider, Bhumika.


    • I am a well-brought up Kannadiga Brahmin girl. My parents thought it best that I not be exposed to Shetty customs or whatever since we were in Bangalore and since my dad didn’t really believe in customs and what not. But yes, am I one now? No, thank you. 🙂


  2. sarita talwai says:

    You hit the nail. When I shifted from Bombay, I was eyed with suspicion and maybe fear. When my neighbours discovered I was a Kannada Brahmin, the questions started. Swanta mane? Situ? North or South Bangalore? Son trying for I.I.T? Gawd! No wonder I steer clear of that dreaded species. And the pride on their accidental birth into a twice -born caste! It would be funny if it was not so sad.


  3. Prashila says:

    You do know I unconditionally love you all the time, but I love you to the point of insanity and madness and every other mad emotion possible when you are like this, snarky and caustic and at her sarc-gasmic(yes that weird word is mine and deliberate) best. And you know what, I am not even Kannadiga Brahmin, but I can relate to so many things here :). Some twisted hope for our caste obsessed society that some things are just universal or probably caste-versal.


    • It’s unfortunate but yes, this is just not about the Kannadiga Brahmins. I’ve seen it among Tam Brahms also. And general other species. But yes, anyone with a keen appreciation for castes usually forms the type, I’ve noticed. And the love is very mutual. 🙂


  4. Hahahaha! Oh, Lord, woman! This really brightened up my dreary Monday! I giggled right through.


  5. manasi jog says:

    Finally I get to see it. the post. brilliant. though I know how painful it actually is for you darling. and the US bit is hilarious. And it seems to be universal in all kannadigas, not just the madhavas and the smarthas. Having heard/been party to conversation of how great the US is for 7 long years 🙂


  6. godof86 says:

    This is real funny! Well done! The step 1 and step 2 are way way too much!
    And special thanks for writing in ‘even-those-evil-North-Indians-can-understand’ level Kannada only.


    • Welcome to the boudoir, Goeightsix. And thank you. That’s all the level I apparently know as well if my relatives are to be believed. 🙂


    • Amarth says:

      @godof86: Are you a bloody Tamil? Please stop abusing Northies if at all you are a Kannadiga. All Kannadigas are Nationalists and are not as evils as Tamils. Please don’t use your cheap tactics here getting amidst all our Indians


  7. Mukta says:

    Loved the post! Still laughing my head off! 🙂 You should have bought that car though. How could you possibly refuse such a generous offer? 😀


  8. Suchi Govindarajan says:

    Clever *and* funny! 🙂
    By the way, that Outlook article was odd. Didn’t he speak to Tamilians? We have *lots* of stereotypes about Kannadigas. Some may even be compliments.


  9. Was giggling right through the read. Nice.


  10. indrayudh says:

    You are written a deadly 🙂 Thank you for sharing the insecurities. Perhaps these fears of distraction by iphones and gold were what gave birth to brahminity in the first place. Please follow this up with a part 2.


  11. Kannadiga says:

    Good read. I had a hearty laugh throughout and more so that at the end.

    Jokes aside, your perception of Brahmins is actually applicable to one particular sub-caste of one particular region. Not Kannadiga Brahmins in general. I can say this because I’ve been with Brahmins all my life (though I’m not one myself).

    Nevertheless, your blog is a good read.


  12. Hilarious! Your command over language, Sarcasm and knowledge of Kannadiga Brahmin behaviour makes for a verry interesting mix!


  13. Nanditha Guruswamy says:

    I am a Lingayath and grew up closely with Brahmin families (all sub-castes) in Shimoga and Mysore. I can totally relate to you at SO many levels 🙂 1 Brahmin girl carelessly asked me once, you are a Lingayath? I thought you are a SC! Oh well, I didnt know how or what to react!. I did what I do best – Ignore her royally! And you are so right — Bigger, brighter, better, and the mighty US! 😉


    • Jesus. I am so ashamed. What does that even mean! As if people walk with a caste card stuck on their heads. Thank you, Nanditha. Anyway if she is friends with you on Facebook, she’d be burning now for sure if she saw your pictures. 😉


  14. Arjun says:

    Hahaha… 😀


  15. Ajay says:

    wow.. perfect… 🙂


  16. Shalini Bhat says:

    I couldn’t relate to most of the things you have mentioned, especially the pointers towards the end. I have never met a Kannadiga Brahmin who’s fond of gold or car. Except for considering themselves above all, the description sounds more like that of Gowda or Shetty or Reddy or any other community, but Brahmins.


  17. chaitra says:

    Some typical features highlighted here… but I hope u are planning to make up for this by talking at length about all the great literary and theatrical achievers …. inclusive of you:)


    • Thank you. I am not an achiever at all. 🙂 Well, the bad is what needs to be worked at, what needs to be improved, and what needs to be talked about so people realise that it’s ridiculous behaviour. As for the good, it’s there everywhere for the world to see.


  18. Murthy says:

    My memories took me to the book ‘Chapman’s Report’ by Irwing Wallace. Makes interesting reading. Classified as best fiction!


  19. Juhi says:

    After having read a lot of your posts silently, I figured I should make a remark.

    It is easy to generalize, isn’t it? While I have no evidence to challenge your personal experiences, I do find it amusingly ridiculous.
    This is the same problem with Michaela Cross’ account of her stay in India. Not that you don’t feel bad for what happened, or that anyone can disprove what happened, but a better sense has to prevail over stereotyping.
    I do understand your post is in a lighter vein, but, aiming to portray a ‘quintessential’ Kannadiga Brahmin with some serious cultural/religious references has to be a bad judgement call.
    In any case, these are my thoughts, and I could be just as wrong. But I felt this deserved taking time out.



    • Avinash says:

      Dear Juhi,

      The term ‘stereotyping’ is something I find silly. And here is why. Our species makes sense of everything around us by identifying a pattern. Just as you will, consciously or unconsciously about me when you are through reading what I have written. that is how we relate and understand our world. It leads to a lot of learnings along the way and reinforcing or negating these said ‘stereotypes’.

      As for the account of Michaela’s stay in India. How far from the truth is she really? Right before my eyes I have seen so many women become victims of abuse in one form or the other. I have stepped in on multiple occasions and had to ‘correct the situation. Here too, I exploited the benefit of a stereo-type. I’m a 6ft tall, skin-head with thick eyebrow that make for a fairly fierce expression. I also workout regularly so that adds to the menacing appearance. Unfortunately its an appearance I’ve had to cultivate to able to counter in whatever small way possible the threats that I see around me. (One example is the knuckle-dragging chest thumper who has responded to your comment with expletives. I would like 5 minutes alone with him just, but I digress.) I think you are trivializing one woman’s trauma, and reading too much into another woman’s experience.

      I would also like to introduce you to a tried and tested stereo-type. The Indian with no sense of humor who can’t laugh at himself/herself.



    • Shreya says:

      I totally agree. Sarcasm or cynicism, it does not call to berate a certain sect of people. I think all your experiences in your household is general human behavior!! Gold, US, cars…tell me which two legged being does not rave about these at least initially until they attain Nirvana?


  20. Priya Anand says:

    Bhumika, amazingly funny and I can so relate to it as a Tam Brahm. I am so glad that my daughter doesn’t seem to a single tambrahm bone in her body.


  21. Maya says:

    dnt know much abt the caste part but enjoyed your superb writing Bhumika .. loved it , i agree part 2 would be great .. i liked it a mix of sarcasm and humour comes through its like you are angry but thankfully your sense of humour tackles it , the temple part , the relatives .. all great


  22. Bhanumathi says:

    enjoyed reading your article. Experience come live in your writing. I too belong to Kannada Brahim family and empathize with you.


  23. Chandragiri... says:

    That was hilarious! Being from a family of priests and astrologers myself, I enjoyed it every bit .


    • Really? Thank you. We must exchange stories. I want to know if Mallu priests also behave the same way. 🙂 Welcome to the boudoir.

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      • Chandragiri says:

        I can only tell you about them, I can’t write because my father himself is a priest,and he is a kannada priest who goes to temples in Karnataka.


      • Reshma says:

        The Mallu Brahmin community is very small in numbers and identifies more as malayalis than Brahmins. I do not see them vying to get to the US. Though I must say a govt job is prized and education from a premier Indian institute is appreciated. I should also add that that is the case with almost any caste in Kerala.
        Surprisingly, in Kerala the Iyers who came many centuries back display all the traits you have attributed to Kannadiga Brahmins!
        I enjoyed reading your article and one Iyer uncle from childhood kept popping into my head all through it. Hilarious!


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